Nalini’s Story

“I am a mother to the most beautiful gift – my son, Dhurvhan and a wife to the one who showed me what love is all about, Thiran my husband.”

Marriage was out of the question for me until I met my husband in 2011, who taught me not every man is the same. Falling in love and getting married to my best friend is most certainly serendipity at its best for I’ve gotten the complete package of friendship and love! We got beautifully hitched in December 2014. As the mark of our love, our son was born in August 2017. Being a parent for the first time ever, it was undeniably exciting and a feeling of completeness of being a family until my husband’s untimely departure in October 2017.

Shattered. Everything became meaningless. Everyone began to address me as a single mum, and I wasn’t ready at all. Everyone asked me to be strong, asked me to move on, asked me not to cry, asked me to live for my son. Trust me, it never works that way. Losing a life partner who was there with you through thick and thin, through ups and downs, through the good and the bad is like losing the only candle you had in a pitch dark tunnel.

Thiran was my greatest listener and advisor for he is wise despite being 3 years younger than me. I was longing for him to show me the path, to show me how to carry on but all I got was people advising me what to do, how to act. People who I don't even know. But I chose to believe what I want to believe. I chose not to accept sympathy. I began seeking his advice and never stopped asking him for strength. The day I stopped grieving, is the day I felt him closer. He never left. I felt the exact same love and strength. He guided and is still guiding me with love. 

The day I chose to transform my lowest point of life into the strongest was the remarkable turning point in my life. I began traveling solo. I saw myself as a new person. Solo traveling pushed me to be more than who I thought I was. It opened up my heart and soul to new possibilities. I began to see the value of life.

And now, being a single mother, I want to show our son what love is all about and how one can be strong and keep going. He calls his dad 'the real Superhero' because we believe Inthiran is now a Superhero who is out there guarding us and the rest. I want our son to see that nothing could withstand love, not even death. I even text my husband till date and some might call it insane, but only those who are going through it will know how peaceful it is.

I chose to transform my lowest point in life into my strongest in the name of love. To be a mother my son is proud of, to be a wife my husband is proud of and be myself to prove not to others, but to myself that I’ve got this. I’m a true believer in ‘Love makes everything possible’.”